Dingbats.

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Are men dingbats? Either they are or I am more charming than I realize. But I really think it's the former. I got an email from Harry saying he had a great time chatting with me and wanted to know when we would go out again. Really? I don't know what date he was on but there was no chemistry and I can't believe he had a great time. Maybe he just wants to date a woman twenty years his junior and doesn't care that the conversation is bland and generic.

I may sound like the world's most shallow person but I am not attracted to a man who seems to have a hard time breathing through his nose due to excess nose hair.

I know Papa Churn said the goal is to get a second date but I'm wondering if I should have even gone on a first date with him. If I am convinced that nothing will happen with a man because of zero chemistry or age or some other x-factor, does that make me closed-minded? And if I just go out with him for the quota, am I using him for the churn? Does that make me a bad person? Does that make me a bad dater? Maybe that is why I am single.

But now I have to email him and reply to say when (if at all) I want to meet up with him again. Papa do preach. I'm in trouble deep. Okay, not really.

I just want to know if a) I should be going out with old (or young) men more than ten years my senior (or junior) when I don't want to date them at all; and b) if I am even churning correctly. When you churn, should there be an internal screening process or do you just go out with anyone who asks?