Firstly I am so happy that Betti met someone, even though I cannot believe you didn't share. Too special? What are we? A box of Cheerios? Papa Churn frown, Papa Churn smile, Papa Churn has wrinkles from opposing emotions. I have not met the guy but am sure he is lovely.
Belle keep up the good work, however if these guys you're dating are beginning to bore you dump 'em just make sure you have another date lined up! I feel like you may be reaching a Churlump, which is a slump mixed with a dash of churn. Let's find a new resource of men for you-try something you don't normally do, go sky diving, join a book group anything that may get you to meet different men to the ones you're already meeting. Shake it up baby.
Now onto todays new dating tool, two simple words that hold a whole world of meaning and in the dating world the are the second or third most important phrase close to "Being exclusive" and "I love you". In the dating world you must never assume anything! A guy says he has a great job, assume he is unemployed, it says a guy is 5ft9 on his match.com profile, he's a teeny tiny nugget of a man, your man is perfect, don't assume you've found the man of your dreams, it ain't over till the fat Papa sings at your wedding. Even then don't assume you'll be happy! While this message sounds a little negative the point of it is a little insurance so that a) you keep things exciting and fresh in your relationships and b) you don't lose your perspective-keep a clear head.
The churn never ends.......even when you're happily with someone...one date a week, no excuses! I never said it couldn't be with the same guy!
Wednesday, November 11, 2009
Tuesday, November 10, 2009
Possible Churning Graduate?
I haven't updated the churn blog in a couple of weeks because (drum roll please) I believe I have found someone who I want to spend a lot of time with. Someone I want to get to know. Someone whose presence makes me not want to date anyone else. So this will be my last post.
I have actually had a crush on this guy for about four or five months. I never blogged about him because, in my mind, he was too special. Plus dating him involved some complications and I didn't think it would ever happen. I tried to push him out of my mind and date other people (one per week, like a good churner) in hopes I would find someone I wanted to spend time with. Secretly I compared every guy to him and nobody ever measured up. But I never admitted that here.
Well, long story short: we are now dating after a whirlwind week and I couldn't be happier. I've been smiling for days on end and my face is kind of sore because of it. He is wonderful and amazing. He is smart and kind. He is so cute I can barely stand it. And I feel like I can be myself around him. I am happy in a way I didn't know was possible. And I like it. A lot.
Belle has met him and she approves. Papa Churn has not met him but I have a feeling he would approve if he met him based on three things:
1. He is a fun, great guy.
2. He takes my breath away.
3. The first time we hung out alone the first thing he did was ask me for a hug. And I wanted to give him one.
I have actually had a crush on this guy for about four or five months. I never blogged about him because, in my mind, he was too special. Plus dating him involved some complications and I didn't think it would ever happen. I tried to push him out of my mind and date other people (one per week, like a good churner) in hopes I would find someone I wanted to spend time with. Secretly I compared every guy to him and nobody ever measured up. But I never admitted that here.
Well, long story short: we are now dating after a whirlwind week and I couldn't be happier. I've been smiling for days on end and my face is kind of sore because of it. He is wonderful and amazing. He is smart and kind. He is so cute I can barely stand it. And I feel like I can be myself around him. I am happy in a way I didn't know was possible. And I like it. A lot.
Belle has met him and she approves. Papa Churn has not met him but I have a feeling he would approve if he met him based on three things:
1. He is a fun, great guy.
2. He takes my breath away.
3. The first time we hung out alone the first thing he did was ask me for a hug. And I wanted to give him one.
Monday, November 9, 2009
I just want a Big Mac and America’s Favorite Fries…
One of the things that has been a challenge about churning is balancing dates with my already busy schedule of work and social engagements. In order to churn this week, I had to double book a bit.
The reporter asked me out for Monday, but I ended up having to work late so we moved it to Tuesday. However, I already had plans with some of my girls for a Ladies Happy Hour. So I met the ladies and then proceeded to meet up with the reporter on 17th Street to watch the infamous DC High Heel Drag Race. Unfortunately it was raining and already super crowed so I didn’t get to see much of the race, but got absolutely soaked. I ended up with really frizzy curly hair, but I guess he didn’t mind. After the race, we moved to another bar where we could get a seat. All in all it was a fun date. Not a lot of deeply informative or personal information shared—we talked mostly about work. I was starting to feel the booze and really, really wanted to go down the street and devour a Big Mac by myself, so I tried to leave. I told him I was fine, I’d just go outside and grab a cab and that he could stay in the bar…he didn’t buy it and wouldn’t rest until he had me safely in a cab…sans fries. He probably would have seen me to Mickey D’s but I didn’t want to go there and inhale a #1 Extra Value Meal in front of him. So I went home hungry, but it was a fun night.
The next night, I met Bachelor #136 at Gazuza for drinks after work. Since it was a weeknight, it was pretty dead so we got a great seat on the patio and could really talk. It had been weeks since our first and only other date so in some ways it felt like we were starting at square one. He is really nice and admitted to really liking me and being attracted to me, etc. After hours of sitting across from each other, he asked me to sit next to him in the booth and I did. We kissed a little, but mostly just talked.
For the second night in a row it was almost midnight and I hadn’t eaten so I tried to escape, but I couldn’t shake him. As we walked through Dupont we passed all these places that were open and I just wanted to duck in and get something. He finally left after seeing me to a bus stop on P Street. As soon as he was out of view, I ran to McDonalds and finally got some French fries.
Both of these guys are really nice and interesting, but I am starting to wonder how much longer I can keep this up. We have gone on several dates over several weeks and every week they keep asking me out, which is great and totally fun. I just don’t want them to think I am leading them on. I like hanging out with them, but there’s no spark. But I’ll ride it out for now and just take it one date at a time.
The reporter asked me out for Monday, but I ended up having to work late so we moved it to Tuesday. However, I already had plans with some of my girls for a Ladies Happy Hour. So I met the ladies and then proceeded to meet up with the reporter on 17th Street to watch the infamous DC High Heel Drag Race. Unfortunately it was raining and already super crowed so I didn’t get to see much of the race, but got absolutely soaked. I ended up with really frizzy curly hair, but I guess he didn’t mind. After the race, we moved to another bar where we could get a seat. All in all it was a fun date. Not a lot of deeply informative or personal information shared—we talked mostly about work. I was starting to feel the booze and really, really wanted to go down the street and devour a Big Mac by myself, so I tried to leave. I told him I was fine, I’d just go outside and grab a cab and that he could stay in the bar…he didn’t buy it and wouldn’t rest until he had me safely in a cab…sans fries. He probably would have seen me to Mickey D’s but I didn’t want to go there and inhale a #1 Extra Value Meal in front of him. So I went home hungry, but it was a fun night.
The next night, I met Bachelor #136 at Gazuza for drinks after work. Since it was a weeknight, it was pretty dead so we got a great seat on the patio and could really talk. It had been weeks since our first and only other date so in some ways it felt like we were starting at square one. He is really nice and admitted to really liking me and being attracted to me, etc. After hours of sitting across from each other, he asked me to sit next to him in the booth and I did. We kissed a little, but mostly just talked.
For the second night in a row it was almost midnight and I hadn’t eaten so I tried to escape, but I couldn’t shake him. As we walked through Dupont we passed all these places that were open and I just wanted to duck in and get something. He finally left after seeing me to a bus stop on P Street. As soon as he was out of view, I ran to McDonalds and finally got some French fries.
Both of these guys are really nice and interesting, but I am starting to wonder how much longer I can keep this up. We have gone on several dates over several weeks and every week they keep asking me out, which is great and totally fun. I just don’t want them to think I am leading them on. I like hanging out with them, but there’s no spark. But I’ll ride it out for now and just take it one date at a time.
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